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About me
I used to always think I had to be strong all the time, that being vulnerable and weak wasn’t attractive.
I bought into the notion that we have to appear like we’re okay all the time, even if we’re not.
I realize now that I’ve had it all wrong the whole time.
No one has it all together or completely under control all the time.
Some just do a better job of mastering a brave facade and projecting strength, even when they’re not feeling strong at all.
I know now it’s okay not to be okay.
It’s okay to have bad days, bad moods and bad feelings.
Crying doesn’t make me weak, it makes me real and able to embrace my truest self.
I’m done pretending I’m a robot, because I’ll never be that person that always has it under control..
I’m real, I’m flawed, but I’m genuine in every sense of the word, and I’m putting away the bravado and embracing the real.
Im going to have days that make me cry and nights that I can’t sleep.
It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with me or that I’m not amazing in my own way.
The people that love me and really truly care about me will always accept and appreciate me, just as I am..
Everyone else ?
They can choose to see me for who I am or not, i can’t control that.
What I can control is me..
My happiness, my choices, my desire to feel deeply and love passionately, each and every day.
So, I’ve finally made peace with the knowledge that every day won’t be fun and I’ll have times where I’m not okay.
The best part of it all is that I’m okay with not being okay all the time.
Because in the end, I’ll find my happiness where it has always been waiting for me, one way or the other.
About you
Whenever you find yourself starting to miss someone you really loved…
But perhaps someone who just didn’t appreciate you.
Someone who just didn’t care about how you felt.
Someone who you loved so much, but someone who just treated you like an option.
Stop for a moment, and remember…
Remember the disrespect.
Remember all the times when your feelings didn’t matter and were invalidated.
Remember how your worth was completely disregarded.
Remember when your boundaries were ignored time and time again.
Remember what they deliberately and knowingly did to break your trust over and over again.
Remember all the times you begged them for the basics and you begged them to treat you as though they loved you, but they still refused.
Remember how it made you feel.
Remember just how much it hurt.
Remember how disappointed you felt.
Remember how betrayed you felt.
Because this was real.
This was how you really felt.
This was someone’s version of love for you...
It’s normal to miss someone who you once loved, especially if the love you felt for them was genuine and ran deep;
but it’s so important to remember all of the reasons why the relationship didn’t work out, instead of just remembering the good times and the happy memories.
Respect yourself by remembering how you really felt, because in doing so you’re honouring yourself and validating your emotions.
Use these memories that were your reality to reassess and reaffirm your boundaries, values, and what’s important to you in a relationship.
Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect.
You deserve to be treated with kindness.
You deserve to be heard with empathy, love, and understanding.
You deserve to have your feelings and needs cared about.
nd you deserve to feel emotionally safe because you trust the person you love to look after your heart and do the right thing by you.
Because when you’re in a relationship, these things are NOT optional extras.
They are the non-negotiable basic foundations!
Don’t allow someone who won't give this to you to continue to treat you less than you deserve.
And don’t settle for a love, that’s less than the love you deserve…
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5'0" (152cm) and big & beautiful.
